Is There A Terrible Sex Coming?
We all knew and we don’t have to be reminded of that terrible sex is not only bad for a relationship, but also for our own self. The next time you are about to face an adventure in casual sex, make sure you have read this article first and all the details here are nowhere to be seen. If they are, you might want to go home alone.
You’re Not Attracted to Them
One of the defining qualities of a one-night stand is that you can have all the fun without any of the emotion. That’s great, but one of the main differences between great and terrible sex is a certain amount of physical and emotional compatibility. This means that you have to be attracted to at least one element of the other person’s character. If there is nothing that attracts you about them with their clothes on, getting them naked isn’t going to make them more attractive.
There’s No Mutual Respect
Opposites can attract, but keep in mind that communication and friendship are at the core of every great sexual experience. If you don’t have respect for each other, and there’s no give-and-take, you’re going to have some terrible sex.
Their Scent is Off
A person’s scent can be off, and that’s not necessarily because they haven’t bathed or brushed their teeth in a while. Some people just have a smell that’s not pleasing to everyone. That’s because your olfactory senses (in your nose) can smell pheromones—chemical substances released by the body to influence the physiology or behavior of another—and if you don’t like what you smell, it means you aren’t compatible. A bad scent, on any level, is a a red flag and it indicates that terrible sex is on the horizon.
They Can’t Dance
They don’t need to be a finalist of a competitive dance show to be good in bed. It’s not about technique or skill. What matters is that you like what they do. If they look sexy to you, chances are you’ll like what they have to offer in the bedroom. If they’ve mastered the art of looking like a fish out of water, and you don’t like that, chances are they’ve also mastered the art of terrible sex.
Wondering if you’ll get a second date? That all depends on your first kiss. Over half of all people will make their decision to go on a second date with someone based on the quality of their first kiss. If your hormones and genes aren’t getting along in the saliva department, chances are there won’t be much to look forward to between the sheets. Your body is built to find you a good match, and if you’re lips aren’t begging for more, they could be saving you from some terrible sex.
There’s No Foreplay
There’s nothing worse than a waiter trying to serve dessert when everyone is still enjoying their appetizers. If your partner is trying to move things along before your mind and body are ready, you’re on your way to having terrible sex. Great sex begins in the mind and follows with the body. A partner who doesn’t take things slow and won’t build on the mutual excitement doesn’t know how to please you. Maybe they don’t care too much about pleasing you either.
They Don’t Know What You Like and You Won’t Tell Them
It’s really easy to blame someone else for terrible sex, but it’s also likely that you’re to blame too. Other than just being incompatible, your partner may not know what you like, and you’re too uncomfortable to tell them. People aren’t mind readers, so if you want something specific in bed, you need to share it. And don’t worry about coming off as too bossy. It’s actually quite sexy when someone knows exactly what they want and has no problem sharing it with their partner.
You’re Over-Analyzing the Moment
Over-analyzing sex is like trying to calculate nuclear physics while on a roller coaster. It is counterproductive and will end with you missing out on most of the fun. Just relax and let it happen any way the two of you see fit. If you have the time to stop and think about how you must look in a certain sex position—you’re doing it wrong.