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Recognizing A Pretentious Kind Of Love

      Time will come that you’ll meet someone and you’ll instantly feel a spark of recognition in your soul. You’ll feel a sense of having come home, a longing for something not quite remembered, you may intuitively know you have met before. You’ll feel a connection that goes way beyond what you actually say and do together.

You can feel as you recognize their soul, a look in their eyes, or their energy powerfully magnetizes you to them. All too often these are the first signs we are about to engage in a karmic relationship.

The karmic recognition falsely tricks you into feeling that your destiny is tied up with this person. A “Karmic Relationship”, is not your twin flame, no matter how much you may want it to be.

Well, are you with someone who pushes you away and then pulls you back, plays games, is unavailable, brings out the destructive tendencies in you, or is abusive in anyway? If so… These are all common signs that what you’re involved in is probably a karmic relationship.
You may know in your heart you need to release the person and move on, and yet you cannot seem to help yourself from running back into the toxic situation whenever they call. This is another strong indication you’re in a karmic relationship.

We cannot point the finger at anyone else, we must look at ourselves to discover why we are giving people a place in our lives if they are not deserving of it. Other people’s treatment of us are a reflection of who we are, so when we let someone into our lives and allow them to treat us badly, we are not caring or loving ourselves enough on the inside. The challenge is that you may cling to a karmic relationship due to the fear of being alone and a hesitancy to step into the unknown to pursue your true happiness.

Karmic relationships teach tough lessons… They often start fast and passionately, there is often an instant connection and a deep instant attraction.
The whole point is to resolve the karma and move on. It’s not that the person you have a karmic relationship with is a bad person, you just have different purposes as souls and so you’ve come together for a short while to resolve the past, heal in the present and move into the future separately.

Karmic relationships naturally end when the debt is resolved, the lesson is learned, the pattern understood,,,

Even when all the signs are staring you in the face, you choose to ignore this… (Maybe they will change?? Not likely!)
Again, if you are not OK with who you are-even if that meant you would never have a partner in your life, then you will always attract the kind of relationships that are destructive, hurtful and confusing, to say the least. In effect mirroring what you are portraying as you….

A Karmic Relationship has some of these characteristics:

• A very intense attraction ( can’t stop thinking about them).
• A feeling of nervousness when the other is near (wanting them to love you ).
• A “Bad Girl/Boy” persona (wanting to be safe/appear strong).
• Arguments & hurtful words.
• Giving up your interests and who you are to please them.
• Restricted Financially-always taking from you
• Abuse of all kinds.
• Selfishness toward responsibility.
• Never letting go of past hurt( often bringing up the “ex” or parents).
• Jealousy ( you are not allowed to hang out but they are).
• Weight Loss/Gain ( both from severe stress!)
• Nice when they want something ( sweet talks until you give in) .
• Lies (will lie even when caught!)
• Cheating ( cheats with you,will cheat on you).
• Social aggression(Hates attention that you get-gets into fights).
• Obsession.
• Breakups ( then cries or has a drama to pull you back in).
• Depression.
• “I will call you when I can” (Translates,I will call you when I have nothing better to do).
• “You are too good for me, don’t waste your time”(this is not a compliment,this is an excuse for their bad behavior.)
• “I’m not ready for love”( Another excuse)
• “I’m not loveable” ( This is another needy reply).
• “I’m just too busy for a partner”(But not too busy for your friends hmm?)

Sometimes you may break away from these kinds of relationships, and still the moment this person contacts you, you will drop everything and run straight to them!!! You will even accept the other’s excuses! As long as they have wanted you for that moment! Even when you know its foolish. All of these and more are signs of a Karmic Relationship.

It is rare that a Karmic relationship will make anyone truly happy.The whole time that a relationship like this is happening, you KNOW deep down that this is just too hard, and it is not going to last. This underlying thought is what will eventually rule out. (But I really LOVE them?? No! You just think you do! )
You may also believe that one day, they will see how happy you make them, and how much they love you…. NO! This is something that is established in the first 5 minutes of meeting, not after years of hurt and strain-or after you have gone!

So, if you are pulling your hair out, feeling betrayed, abandoned,unfulfilled, angry, jealous, enraged and left alone to name a few, then you need to be honest about the situation, and know that you deserve happiness on every level. You are delaying this growth, and the longer you leave it, the harder it is.

But there is no easy way out-this has to begin with you! You need to release all of the past and all the doubts about yourself and start fresh. After all, this person has taken so much from you-about time you started to reinvent yourself, and take your power back!
Don’t believe the put downs you may have received from this person-sometimes, a dark energy may be lurking with them-in which case, they will feel threatened by your light.

It will not be an easy process. But a lot easier than living with them! Your friends and family will have already pointed out that they don’t understand why you put up with your karmically-challenged person’s attitude or behavior. And perhaps, intellectually, you know they’re right. The great news is that as soon as you start to consciously acknowledge the truth of your fated relationship, the mask will slowly slip, and you will see them for who they truly are. You’ll soon come to realize what the people who really do care for you see so plainly – that it’s not really love.

Your own path

This is one lesson you have to learn on your own. Everyone goes through it at some time, and your path is unique, created by your own personal karmic debts.

Although it can be a lonely place to be, the miracles that will happen when you take charge of your own destiny will amaze you. Tackling your personal fears and negative patterns has the potential to completely re-wire your spiritual life path. It is also important to recognize the other person in the relationship as a powerful force in your life. They are teaching you a valuable lesson, one that could free you from an endless loop of negative behavior.

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